Her: “Do you want to take my number? I’m free this weekend…”
Him: “Thanks, but, I just don-“
Her: “You don’t what? Find me attractive? What are you fucking saying mate, that I’m ugly? Well you’re ug-.”
Bye.
From flirty Fiona to kung-fu Cantona before you’d even had a chance to politely explain that South London girls just aren’t your type (which can I say is RUDE. We’re alright you know).
What makes women so defensive when it comes to rejection? I mean men deal with it pretty well considering. They’ll be all up in the DMs only to switch page and see his efforts screenshot all over the timeline for retweets. A hefty dose of self-banter and the man is ready to go again with someone else. If roles reversed and a guy did this to a woman they’d have the police at their door with a wild case of cyber bullying and some guy called Luther telling them to come round the corner.
So why do women go into such melt down when they don’t get their own way in regards to bagging a man? Besides from the extreme assumption that they’re suddenly hideous and will die alone with 14 cats and a weekend job in Spearmint Rhino, there has to be an underlying reason why women just simply cannot handle rejection well?
I think it boils down to self-worth and unlike men, women’s self-worth is based predominantly on their looks (not for everyone before you try to come for my neck). When a woman is rejected it is a huge knock to their confidence with alarm bells going off telling them that they’re failing as an attractive woman. God forbid they don’t happen to be someone’s type. We’re not all universally attractive you know.
It doesn’t help that women never have to do the approaching so they haven’t been conditioned to deal with rejection or acknowledge that not everyone will want a piece of what they’re offering. They’re not accustomed to sexual rejection, even the ugly ones. It is far easier to get laid if you are an unattractive woman than if you are an unattractive man because there is usually a man sufficiently low enough in the mating hierarchy, and desperate enough for sexual relief, who would still accommodate an unattractive woman’s advances.
Men have been programmed to find successful ways of approaching women and knowing how to feel when it doesn’t go to plan. Since men go through this predicament more so than women, they have steadily built a shell that protects their ego and persuades them to hunt another day, unlike women who will go into meltdown and seek revenge on their rejecters. It will play on their mind for weeks much to their detriment because they are wasting precious time lingering on what could have been.
Therefore, It seems experience and self worth are key factors in what makes women so terrible at handling rejection. When a woman’s ‘A’ game is simply just looking good it leaves little to play with in terms of accepting why a rejection was made. Mix this with inexperience and you’ve got a ticking time bomb on your hands. A man will remain confident in himself and his abilities regardless of being rejected which in turn usually brings him success in the next round. Of course, there’s always going to be one douchebag male who can’t handle rejection either and spread rumours that you’ve got small titties or some shit but fuck those guys. They can chill with the women who stunt with their post rejection attitudes.
How do you feel about women and rejection? Am I speaking out of turn or does this sound pretty spot on? Let me know what you think in the comments below.
Lack of self confidence is another reason women don’t take rejection lightly. Some women may go in with the confidence but when rejection comes into play, it’s out the window. Just realizing that not everyone will be interested and moving on to a much better prospect is key to kicking that rejection out the window. Don’t let men push you around. Women are way more superior. 🙂
Totally agree! Self confidence can play a major role when it’s mixed in with inexperience of approaching men first etc etc. Women definitely do need to remember their worth regardless of who is or isn’t interested in them – at the end of the day, we rule. lol x
Women rule what??? Maybe beta males
Women never have to approach, so usually they don’t have to put themselves on the line to know where they stand. In other words, they’re ignorant of where they actually stand in terms of getting a guy, cause like you said sexual attraction isn’t the same as flat out attraction, a lot of frustrated guys will sleep with any chick that looks good enough for them to get it up
I agree. Women sooth each others egos and make the next woman believe they deserve anything and anyone lol therefore when it comes to approaching men and being rejected it’s like a foreign language.
I found that even non-sexual rejection isn’t handled well by attractive women. The more attractive she is, the more entitled she seems to feel to positive opinions from men. I just had a girl tell me to “go fuck myself” after I let her know I thought her profile picture was too overtly sexual, and that she should tone it down if she really wants guys to stay interested. I think if her female friend had voiced this opinion, she would have taken it seriously, but she just got immediately defensive and stood her ground with no leeway once I said I disapproved.
I think a lot of it has to do with maturity and security. There are plenty of women that can handle rejection and they just move on. They’ve had enough experience around asking the right questions to get the information they need without being too direct. Sometimes guys reject women because they’re uncomfortable or surprised that a woman has asked them out so the way the guy responds is awkward which makes the woman feel awkward. However there are plenty of women who just don’t have the experience asking a guy out so they either try to get the guy to chase them or do awkward things like stare.