The 90-Day Rule: What Are You Waiting For Exactly?

Girl one: Have you slept together yet?
Girl two: Nah, I’m waiting 90 days. We’re good though.
Girl one: Waiting for what? Is it a Christmas present orr?
Girl two: No, I’m just waiting to sleep with him because it will show strength to our situation. I’ll know that I can trust him and he won’t think I’m easy.
Girl one: Yeah ok, lol.

Now I’m not saying us women shouldn’t wait to reveal our matching underwear and go wild with the person we’re dating, but I’m slightly confused as to what waiting for a specific amount of time will achieve?
One thing to know about men is that they love a challenge. If you let them know that in 90 odd days they’re going to see you in all your glory, you can sure as hell bet that he will stick around for those 90 days. He will work towards that moment because he knows with enough groundwork, he’s going to win a prize.

It’s nice to think that 3 months with no sex will result in a strong bond and a deep emotional connection but there is no evidence that waiting a specific amount of time will affect the future of your relationship.
With the fast paced society we live in things have shifted slightly and men aren’t really bothered or judgemental towards how a woman puts it down. That’s not to say a man wants a woman who lets everyone hit; but he definitely wants one that lets him hit.

Whether you sleep with him on the 1st night or the 90th night, it don’t and won’t change the type of guy you’re dealing with. A man can pursue you greatly for 3 solid months and on that 90th night, never call you again. That’s because they’re gamers. You laid out the instructions and he carefully played along, successfully completing all the challenges until he won the golden prize. Now he’s won he’s in search of another game to play. That’s not all men obviously, but some men who are unattached and only looking for some fun can very well have this fun, up for the challenge mindset – regardless of how long it takes to ‘win’.

This being said, men are emotional too; although they’ll be damned to admit it.  I don’t think they’re counting how many days it’s been since you met and when would be an appropriate time to smash. I think they have a rough idea of how they perceive you before it happens, whether you’ve known them a day, week or month. So how long you hold out for is effectively irrelevant. If they’re into you, they’re into you; if they’re not, then sorry hunnie, but they probably never will be.

This sounds like I’m against waiting to sleep with someone and I don’t condone getting to know someone first, but that’s not my angle. What I’m merely trying to say is we live in a different world now. Men and women are programmed differently and we need to accept that. Holding out until you feel it’s right is the way to go. If it feels right after night two then good for you, and if it feels right after night 87, then good for you. Judge him on the energy he gives you, not on his ability to keep it in his pants for 3 months.

What do you think about the 90 day rule? Do you agree or disagree with my stance and have you tried and tested this method before? Contact me by dropping a comment below or reaching my contact page 🙂