How To Make The Most Of Valentines Day When You’re Single

February 14th. Valentines Day. One measly day in the calendar when men deep sigh and women start looking at their men funny in the light, trying to work out if he’s worth keeping or not.

Honestly, it’s not that deep. Men will find ways of getting out of it as if to say it’s a day in prison, and women will start panicking and placing all the value of their relationship onto one yearly tradition. I see it from both sides to be honest. I appreciate that despite not liking valentines day, the least a man could do is acknowledge it for their partner’s sake, but I also understand that men don’t want to feel pressured to do things their partner wouldn’t require of them on any other day.

So…. it sounds like being single on Valentines Day is actually a bonus!

Here are a few things you should avoid doing on Valentines Day to ensure you make the most of it and avoid any potential heartbreak or upset:

1. Go to a restaurant: One minute you’ll be excited for your spaghetti and the next you’ll be crying into it when the man next to you proposes.
2. Scrolling through social media: It’ll just be full of people doing the most to prove their relationship is better than everyone else’s. Ok Susan.
3. Contact your ex: Just no.
4. Overthink it: Don’t get sucked into this narrative that if you don’t have a valentine it means you’re not worthy. Not. That. Deep.
5. Watch a movie: At home is fine but sitting in the middle of 25 couples at the cinema watching a romcom is not the way forward.
6. Listen to the radio: For the presenter to remind you every 3 minutes that it’s Valentines Day? Apple music b.
7. Go on the pull: You are not desperate, you hear me? YOU ARE NOT DESPERATE. This is not a day for cocktails and bodycon.
8. Rely on advice: Try and stay out of your feelings by minimising your contact with people who you would usually have deep, meaningful conversations with. Chances are they’re either out with bae or they’ll say something to trigger you into buying 3 tubs of ice cream.

I think a lot of pressure if put on men and women to uphold certain Valentine standards and if we’re going to be honest with ourselves, it usually creates more harm than good. More arguments than there are flowers. If you are single I would take this time to appreciate yourself and appreciate the time you have to enjoy your life. We all know things change once you enter a relationship and not that I’m trying to be against them, but they can limit your life experiences if you put too much emphasis on finding the right guy. Treat it like any other day and you will do just fine. You never know, you might even have a secret admirer out there anyway. Your time to shine will come my g x