I haven’t posted in a while and the way Love Island has us all by the neck I thought now is the perfect time to exercise my fingers again.
I want to focus on Georgia and her now ex relationship with Josh.
Personally, age and experience are the only real teachers when it comes to love, and it won’t be until you live through a situation, or have grown enough to look back on one, will you understand that certain things just aren’t worth putting yourself through.
Poor little G is hellbent on exercising the fact that she remained loyal to Josh in the villa, and she absolutely did. It is clear that she is failing to understand why that isn’t particularly important though. In her eyes she did the wifely thing and stuck by her man. But there is the problem – he was never her man. She was keeping a space in the bed warm for someone who hadn’t expressed an interest in paying rent.
I know how common it is to fall into the trap of assuming somebody is on the same page as you based on their current actions. You’re mutually feeling each other, spending time together, showing equal amounts of affection – how could they just switch up?
Plot twist bitchesss they never switched up you just overestimated your position.
Georgia made the mistake of assuming that her and Josh were doing the ting as a duo, as opposed to just two people enjoying each others company. The reason she assumed this was because a clear conversation hadn’t been had around their intentions. Yes they both admitted they liked each other and yes they both spoke sweet nothings into each others ears but at no point did either one of them ask for exclusivity or a relationship. It’s an open game at this point.
Notice how there was no confusion between Dani and Jack? Jack made it painfully obvious that he only wanted to be with Dani, and making it official solidified her desire to be loyal to him. So saying that, is it ever a good idea to be loyal before being official?
I guess it all depends on your tolerance and what emotionally works for you. I’ve never liked the idea of entertaining several dudes just so I don’t get attached to one, but reality is if you do only focus on one the risk of it succeeding is very much 50/50.
Being fiercely loyal to someone that hasn’t claimed you puts you in a very vulnerable position. It can also heighten your expectation of someone and you may find yourself becoming upset at trivial gestures that you two haven’t even discussed as a couple.
I want to say that being loyal before being official isn’t a complete no no and I don’t want anyone to think that we’re all out here with multiple people because that simply isn’t true. But you owe it to yourself to ensure you are your number 1 priority when it comes to dating. A man you have been on 2 dates with isn’t automatically entitled to your undivided attention and vice versa. Don’t feel guilty for replying to a text just because you’ve had 1 or 2 Facetime conversations with someone else. If you are seeking a long term partner you need to be sure you are connecting with the right one uno? You both need to be mature enough to accept that other people have existed before you and if you are very early into your dating people may still even exist. Don’t give up hope though, just be mindful.
My advice would be to analyse the situation a few weeks in and ask any relevant questions you may lowkey want to know. Don’t ask don’t get. You can gage whether the feeling is mutual or if your partner is out here with the whole of North London. Don’t be scared to put yourself first and find out these facts before you give yourself whole heartedly to someone. I don’t want you to be doing twitter threads about men are trash because the RTs on those have started to dry up. I think we exhausted that narrative back in 2017.
All the best…