Let’s have casual sex she said. It’ll be fun she said.
Fun until she start’s quoting Romeo and Juliet and hitting you with that algebra in which x=commitment. You signed up for a bang and walked away with a reservation at The Shard for your one week anniversary.
Are women tricking men into relationships by playing the “I’m not looking for anything serious” card at the beginning? By portraying this hassle-free attitude does it make you feel more inclined to hang with her because you don’t automatically see her as a headache?
I think men feel comfortable approaching women who appear more laid back because they don’t give off the impression that they’re going to hit you with the “so, what are we?” text anytime soon. But is this all part of their plan?
Dating in the 21st century has become a lil messy to say the least. Everything is somewhat temporary and women aren’t making it past the first round because they’re wearing their hearts on their sleeves and being in love seems to be for suckers. Men particularly don’t want to deal with emotions, especially when they feel no attachment to the woman.
This ‘hook up’ culture is in full swing and it doesn’t include commitment or any small object which may or may not be a child. This isn’t what the majority of females want though but they have to play the game in order to stand a chance of being with the person they desire. So out comes the “hey baby let’s chill” line and she’s there acting cool as f*ck watching the game pretending you aint sh*t when really all she’s thinking is “are you impressed yet?” “Can we get married now?” I suppose a Vegas wedding would be fun this time of year…hot but not too humid.
It seems (however I am not sure if it is scientifically true) that women tend to catch feelings more after sex than men do. Mainly due to post coitus acts which leave women smitten that men barely even acknowledge happening. If you stroke her hair that definitely means you love her. Given her a cuddle? You’re half way down the aisle. They want this feeling to last as long as possible so she will pretend that she’s cool with casual hook ups because somewhere in her drawer is a sound plan of how she’s going to get this arrangement to become a little more permanent.
Story time…
So after some time you’re probably thinking she’s a cool girl. Hasn’t particularly kicked off about anything and gives you what you need. So that’s phase one of her plan complete. All she needs to do now is firm it a little longer until you’re the one asking to meet up and hang out. Once it’s a two way street it’s immediately into phase two where she cleverly becomes the woman you want. Not blowing up your phone but cracking a few jokes to pass the time. Allowing you to watch the game in peace and looking fire whenever you see her. You’re starting to open up to her more and be a little more genuine and this is phase three: using this emotional breakthrough as ammo.
Without warning she turns into a small psycho Sally but subtle enough not to make you freak out too much. You’re a bit thrown off and now a little confused but damn, you kinda like her still. She’s been so cool up to this point and you’ve now confided in her with a few things so it wouldn’t hurt seeing where it goes, would it? BAM. Phase 4. You’re in a relationship and she’s already signed your half of the contract. You’re caught so off guard you feel like Bradford City’s goalkeeper and your girl is Ledley King.
The thing is women know that men can walk away fairly easily even after getting to know a woman so they know they’ve got to be quick when transitioning from “I’m not looking for anything serious” to “we’re a good couple though and you’re feeling me so why not???” (God forbid you give her any reasons why not).
Without suspecting a thing this chick you’ve been having a casual fling with (but now committed to) has been planning this since the very beginning. She had visions of you being a couple from the start. Bruh, she tricked you! She may well have had no feelings for you at the beginning and was probably able to partake in a little fun without concern for a while but she defo knew she eventually wanted to be your girlfriend. She just needed to play the casual game and get you on side first.
Who said women can’t play games eh?! Enjoy The Shard!