Do not contact them. There is nothing more soul destroying than thinking all yours texts are logical and mature and totally not needy then re-reading them a couple weeks later and wanting to pull your eyes out at how illogical, immature and needy you sounded.
Get drunk with friends. Chances are you haven’t had a good girl’s night out in a while because a lot of women make the mistake of making their hubby no1 priority. Unless your friends are proper shit, most will rally round you and support you during this time. Besides, none of them are going to turn down a night of male bashing in front of the TV whilst consuming endless cocktails. You will, however, have to promise to never ever ever put a guy first again. Damnit.
Cry. Sounds a bit counterproductive but if you release all the built up emotion at the beginning you’ll find it easier to discuss the situation and see things In a clearer light early on rather than sobbing into your Weetabix 6 months down the line because a sudden wave of depression sweeps over you on Monday morning. Being in denial of your feelings is dangerous and usually what men do. Ever had an ex blow up your phone months after a breakup? That’s probably because he acted as if you never existed in the initial break up stage then his emotions got the better of him once he released taking home 2’s and 3’s was actually rather tedious and boring.
Make a change. You may have seen my post ‘5 Things You Sould Be Ding DURING Your Relationship’ which discusses all the things you should be doing during your relationship and not just after a breakup but post-relationship is a perfect time to make some form of change within or about yourself. Changing your hair colour or planning the future – anything that re opens your mind and excites you or lets you make a decision without anyone’s approval or permission. DO WHAT YOU WANT INIT.
Look good – always. It is sods law that the first time you bump into your ex or his mates will be when you haven’t washed your hair in 8 days and even your Marc Jacobs perfume smells a bit off. You broke up – but did you die though? Did you lose any limbs disabling you from dressing yourself in the morning? Stop being ugly.
Meet someone else. Only follow this step if you’re not a wet lettuce who falls In love with every person that smiles at you though. They do say “to get over one you should get under another” but take this advice lightly. You may end up depressed and in love with someone else instead or just suppress your feelings for your ex and have those emotions attack you at a later stage (refer to step 3). Just remain social and realise that you’ve still got it- you’re always going to be a hot tamale to someone.
